We often speak of diversity as something we should naturally accept. Yet when another person’s values or way of life crosses the invisible boundaries we have drawn around ourselves, acceptance becomes far more difficult.
Even today, conflicts continue to erupt around the world, and human lives are lost with frightening ease.
There are many causes of conflict, of course. But perhaps one of them is our inability to accept people whose ideas and ways of life differ from our own.
When I think about diversity in my own life, however, I am not talking about anything so grand.
It may be something closer to the old saying, “The grass is always greener on the other side”—something in the realm of envy or jealousy.
But when such feelings accumulate among many people, they can grow into something much larger.
There are probably many definitions of the word “diversity.”
Put simply, perhaps it means that every person has his or her own way of thinking and living.
That should be obvious.
If I want to live my own life in my own way, then surely I should also accept that other people want to live theirs in their own way.
And yet, somehow, I do not always manage to do that.
At times, this makes me realize how narrow-minded I can be.
Perhaps that is where envy and jealousy come in.
I myself live within a framework of social norms and expectations. I am bound by them, and to some extent I can move only within that framework.
People who live according to values very different from mine may seem to exist outside it.
When I look at them, it can almost appear as though they have no rules at all.
But of course that is not true.
They, too, live within a society of their own, constrained by its norms or by something similar.
If I could understand that and simply say,
“They can live however they like,”
perhaps things would be easy.
But when those differences begin to enter my own life, or the territory that I believe I am protecting, acceptance suddenly becomes much more difficult.
Only then, perhaps, am I really tested on whether I can accept diversity.
Territories themselves are things that human beings have invented.
There were never any lines drawn on the surface of the earth, nor were there originally lines dividing human society.
We drew them ourselves.
And because we keep drawing all kinds of physical and psychological boundaries, perhaps that is precisely why we find it so difficult to accept diversity.
A familiar example can be found in issues surrounding LGBTQ people.
When I think about such questions, I notice that even within myself there is a tendency to draw a line and say, “I can accept things up to this point, but beyond that…”
There are biological differences associated with sex, while psychologically there seems to be a broad spectrum extending between what we describe as femininity and masculinity.
Trying to divide all of that neatly into only “female” and “male” seems extremely difficult to me.
It is easy to say that we should accept diversity.
But erasing the lines we have drawn within ourselves is much harder.
Perhaps that difficulty is itself one of the reasons why accepting diversity is so difficult.
Perhaps accepting diversity begins not with judging the differences in others, but with recognizing the invisible boundaries within ourselves.
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Vocabulary for Learners
diversity
The existence of many different kinds of people, ideas, values, or ways of living.
多様性
the grass is always greener on the other side
An expression meaning that other people’s lives or situations often seem better than our own.
「隣の芝生は青い」―他人の状況の方が自分より良く見えること
envy
A feeling of wanting something that another person has.
羨望、うらやましさ
jealousy
An uncomfortable feeling caused by comparing yourself with someone else or fearing the loss of something important.
嫉妬、ねたみ
social norms
Unwritten rules and expectations about how people should behave in a society.
社会的規範
narrow-minded
Unwilling or unable to accept ideas or ways of life that are different from one’s own.
心が狭い、異なる考えを受け入れにくい
framework
A basic structure or set of ideas within which something is understood or organized.
枠組み
boundary
A real or imaginary line that separates one thing from another.
境界線
spectrum
A range in which many different conditions or characteristics exist between two extremes.
連続的な幅、スペクトラム
tolerance
The willingness to accept people, beliefs, or behavior that are different from one’s own.
寛容、受容する姿勢
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